Month: January 2015

Inwardness, Marital Discord, and Porn

A positive, nurturing, etc. upbringing psychologically prepares a person to successfully meet the challenges that inevitably arise in an intimate relationship. I say inevitable because there will always be some friction at times between two people, no matter how well suited they are for each other. The other person in a relationship is another person, with his/her own needs, values, perspective, trigger points, moods, idiosyncrasies, foibles, quirks, blind spots, and so on. No one’s needs, wants, etc. are fulfilled 100% of the time by one’s partner or spouse. Thus all relationships are challenging in certain ways and degree. Read more

How Does Change Occur in Psychotherapy?

I think it will be helpful to me and to prospective and beginning clients to try to provide an overview of how I think about …

Make-Believe in the Addiction Treatment Industry

Therapists shouldn’t be in the business of make-believe. There is a great deal of make-believe in the addiction treatment …