Month: April 2014

Facing What Happened | What Lies Beneath Addiction

Karen Horney, a pioneering revisionist of psychoanalytic theory in the 1930s and 1940s, once remarked that in the main what people in analysis wanted was not cure but rather not to be so inconvenienced by their neurosis. In plainer language, and to address this to addiction, what most people want is to ‘eat their cake and have it too,’ to be able to use but for the use to not get so out of hand and produce so much trouble in living day to day. To basically do the same thing and be the same way but a little less.
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Is Porn Bad For You?

Is Porn Bad For You? I’m talking about the videos you watch on the internet. I’m not interested here in examining what distinguishes artistic rendering or examination of human sexuality from porn or in examining if porn is simply a term of disapproval on the part of someone for something that another person does not find objectionable. Again, I’m talking about what you watch online that is commonly understood as porn.

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How Does Change Occur in Psychotherapy?

I think it will be helpful to me and to prospective and beginning clients to try to provide an overview of how I think about …

Make-Believe in the Addiction Treatment Industry

Therapists shouldn’t be in the business of make-believe. There is a great deal of make-believe in the addiction treatment …

Magical Thinking About Drinking

Most of the people I see who have serious drinking problems express the hope that they can over time acquire the ability …